RELATIONSHIPS | Effective Communication

Strengthening relationships with Parkinson’s

Clear and open communication is vital in managing any relationship, especially those affected by Parkinson’s. Effective communication is crucial in relationships because it helps both partners understand their needs, fears, and expectations. Parkinson’s can bring significant changes, including difficulties with speech, movement, and cognitive functions, which can strain relationships. By maintaining open and honest communication, couples can navigate these challenges together, ensuring both partners feel heard and supported. Here are a few strategies to use to help ensure communication between you is effective: 

Use “I” statements to express yourself without blaming.

“I” statements are a powerful communication tool that can help express your feelings and needs without sounding accusatory. They promote understanding and prevent the listener from becoming defensive. Here’s how they work:

1. Start with “I feel”: This emphasises your emotions and avoids blaming the other person.
2. Describe the specific behaviour: Clearly state what triggered your feeling.
3. Explain the impact: Share how this behaviour affects you.
4. Express your need: Let the person know what you need or prefer to happen.

Active listening is equally important. Acknowledge your partner’s feelings and concerns.

Active listening involves fully concentrating, understanding, responding, and remembering what someone is saying. Here’s how you can practice it:

1. Pay full attention: Focus on the speaker and avoid distractions. Make eye contact and be present.
2. Show that you’re listening: Use non-verbal cues like nodding and facial expressions to show you’re engaged in the conversation.
3. Provide feedback: Reflect back what you’ve heard by summarising or paraphrasing. For example, “What I hear you saying is…”.
4. Defer judgment: Avoid interrupting with your thoughts or judgments. Let the speaker finish their point.
5. Respond appropriately: Offer thoughtful responses that show you’ve understood and care about the conversation.

Regularly check in with each other to ensure you’re both on the same page.

Regularly checking in can help ensure that you and your partner remain in sync and can navigate the challenges of young onset Parkinson’s together more effectively. Here are some strategies for regular check-ins:

1. Schedule regular conversations: Set aside specific times each week dedicated to discussing your thoughts, feelings, and any updates. Consistency helps maintain open lines of communication.
2. Create a safe space: Ensure that these check-ins are free from distractions and in a comfortable setting where both of you feel relaxed and open to sharing.
3. Check emotional climate: Regularly ask each other how you’re feeling emotionally and physically to address any underlying issues early on.
4. Use technology: If face-to-face check-ins aren’t always possible, use video calls, voice notes, or messaging apps to stay connected.
5. Flexibility and adaptability: Be open to adjusting your plans and communication methods as needed to suit your evolving situation.

Effective communication can help you navigate the challenges together. Additionally, effective communication allows for better coordination of care and support. It helps in discussing treatment options, managing symptoms, and making important decisions about daily living and future care. This collaborative approach can reduce stress and prevent misunderstandings, fostering a stronger, more resilient relationship. Whether you want to speak to your care team, friends, family, colleagues, or partner, similar communication strategies can be employed. 

Resources

For crisis support please call LifeLine on 13 11 14. If you are in immediate danger call 000. 

Australian Federation of Disability Organisations – Communication

Relationships Australia – Communication

Speech Pathology Australia – Communication factsheet